After a pretty mixed few weeks, it’s time to look forward and make some changes to make sure the coming months are the best yet.
After the joy of regaining contact with an old friend, I received news (just days apart) that two friends had died. Throughout this, I’ve received amazing support from my husband, family and workmates and had other little moments of joy.
So, in an effort to make the most of it and live a life more loved, I’m making a concerted effort to focus on these five things:
- Friends and family. They are vital. It’s simple enough to write and I’m reasonably good at keeping in touch but this last few weeks have proven to me that they should remain a priority regardless of how busy my week is or how tired I may be. I’m lucky to be connected to some pretty wonderful people and I want them to know it now and always.
- My health. I make plans to do a lot of things, but quite often let other engagements cancel my exercise plans, postpone medical appointments or make plans for meals out. None of that is a problem once in awhile, but it adds up. It’s time to make my health a priority.
- Sleep. Most people who know me will love at this, but the reality is that I often procrastinate before bed which means that I don’t end up getting as much sleep as I intend. That must change.
- Saving. It should be a habit, but, like many others, for me it hasn’t been. It’s time to change that.
- Just doing it. It’s time to stop procrastinating. List making is one thing, but it’s time to limit social media, switch off the TV, get up and just live life. It’s too short.
When I made my last post, I’d hoped that it would be years before I again heard a friend had died.
Alas, on Monday night, my friend, Elizabeth, passed away after losing her long and hard-fought battle with Cystic Fibrosis.
While our friendship had changed a lot since we first met at high school and our catch ups were infrequent, she was often in my thoughts and we regularly exchanged emails.
Last Friday, I happened to be in my home town, our schedules worked and we caught up. The nature of her illness meant lunch and coffee were out, but we sat and chatted for a time that I will now cherish forever. She was the same bubbly, smiling girl I met in the school yard. Despite the rather awful year she’d had health-wise, she was happy, she was laughing and her spirit was strong.
We went our separate ways with promises of emails soon and catching up when I was next in town.
Sadly, I will head home next week to farewell this beautiful friend. A woman who had shown courage in the face of challenge, shared happiness and laughter always and who has taught me to appreciate how lucky I am.
Elizabeth, you will be missed, but not forgotten. x
This week we received the tragic news that one of our friends had died in an overseas accident.
Right now, across the country, a lot of people are hurting. Grief is strong among his friends and family, lamenting a young man who was much loved, gone to soon.
I have seen the heartbreak, but I’m also pleased that I have seen these people come together. I am pleased that they have found ways to honour Kurt and support each other.
I was fortunate enough to have known Kurt and been witness to his hard work, determination, enthusiasm and bubbliness. I didn’t know him as well as a lot of people, but I am so grateful that I did know him.
This awful week has also reminded me just how important it is to hold close the ones we love and tell them how much they mean to us. Amongst this sadness, I’ve been blessed to spend time with friends I see too infrequently and make contact with old friends.
As the week draws to a close, take a moment to call a friend, write them or drop by. Life’s short.
RIP Kurt. You are missed.